The first thing to establish is that sometimes your first date can be your last. This is because when you meet someone for the first time, your level of curiosity increases as well as your level of excitement. What if your excitement and expectations were cut short because the other person’s personality did not fit yours or you quickly noticed that your date was way out of your league?
In deciding whether or not there will be a second date, the efforts and decisions made by your partner during the first date will be taken into consideration since it is not fitting to establish a relationship if the other person isn’t feeling it.
There are signs that could indicate if there will be a second date or not. Most of these signs are clear from the first date.
It is very important to watch out for these signs because you are better off knowing that there will be no second date than racking your brain or hoping for a call for another date, or worse, being ghosted after the date. So in the first meeting, you need to check for signs of connection and interests. There also needs to be a sense of understanding and comfort.
So, in this article, we will cover some clear signs that there will be no second date. This will help you so that you can advise yourself and save yourself from worrying about what could have been.
11 Sign There Will Be No Second Date
SIGN 1: Arriving late for the date
One solid sign there will be no second date is when you arrive late for a first date with no valid reason. Arriving late says a lot about your character and the respect you have for your partner.
You should never arrive late for a date, and if for any reason you find yourself running late, you should send a message or put a call across to your partner. When you show up late without explaining yourself or rendering an apology, a second date should be out of the question, especially if your date is one who values his or her time greatly.
Irrespective of how excellent the date went, that action alone would paint you as undisciplined in the eyes of your date.
SIGN 2: Displaying a rude behavior
How you treat the staff at the location says a lot about your character and personality. Are you rude to the valet? Did you insult or refuse to tip the waiters well? If there was any rude interaction between you and the waiter, people on the road, or staff of the establishment you used for your date, know for sure there will be no second date. No one wants to go out with a rude person.
SIGN 3: Unnecessary criticismÂ
This is observed from the minute you pick her up or say hello to her at the date location. If you are unnecessarily critical of the location, staff, food, services offered, setting, or anything else, there’s a high chance you would be critical of your date’s dressing, food, money, life choices, and family. No one wants a critic on a date, not to mention a relationship. A first date is for familiarization; you can’t dampen it with unnecessary criticism and expect a second date to happen. No! He or she wants to enjoy the date, not sit through a criticism monologue.
At the end of the day, a second date is not necessary.
SIGN 4: If your conversation were an interview
Awkward pauses on a first date are inevitable. However, you shouldn’t act like an interviewer and ask too many questions. Every good conversation thrives on mutual participation. It’s a date, not a monologue script or an interview session.
The topics, questions, and ideas should be filled with enthusiasm and leave enough room for your date to reciprocate.
Your date expects to relax and enjoy himself or herself and not answer hot-seat questions. You don’t make your date look and feel tense and expect to get a second date. It doesn’t happen that way. This is one sure sign that there will be no second date.
SIGN 5: If you were yawning constantly
First of all, did you not rest well before coming for the date, or is your date boring you out? Why are you yawning?
Yawning is a reflex action that depicts tiredness or boredom. Yawning next to your date is a clear sign you’re not interested in the date. If that is the case, you should end the date quickly rather than embarrassing the lady or guy you went out with. No one wants to feel unwelcome or like they are the source of their stress.
If you are tired from work, you could explain and reschedule for another day.
Whatever the case, know that yawning is a sign that there will be no second date.
SIGN 6: You have wandering eyes
Any guy who checks on another woman while seated next to you is outright disrespectful and should not be given such grace. The same applies to the lady.
Irrespective of how much interest you have shown in your date partner, checking out other people to their faces shows you are not loyal.
No one should put up with such a disrespectful display. Your interest in the person is what prompted you to ask for the date. Therefore, you should be able to keep your eyes on them, except maybe when talking to the staff on the side. This shows you value your date partner. If not, a second date is out of the question.
SIGN 7: Unkempt appearance and poor hygieneÂ
Are you the kind that preaches “accept me as I am” and does not care about your physical appearance and hygiene? That is the reason no lady or guy you meet will ever agree to a second date with you.
Poor hygiene is a huge turnoff for anybody except your date, whose hygiene is also questionable. Did you wash or wipe your hands after touching food particles or rubbing them on your clothes? Do you look disheveled, dirty, or smelly?
If you don’t care about your physical appearance in public, it signifies you are not excited to meet and spend time with your date. Because no matter how insignificant, meeting someone for the first time should get you on your toes, eager to please the person.
SIGN 8: Negative body language
Your body language is a pointer to how much you want this person in front of or beside you. When you keep pressing your phone, lean away from the table, cross your arms, look out the window, fidget with your nails or cloth, or recoil from a pat in your hand or a little hand holding, you show negative body language, which is a huge turn-off for most people.
Once your date notices such a display, they may also become withdrawn, resulting in a very awkward and boring date because one is scared of overstepping boundaries and ruining the whole thing.
Your body language sends a lot of messages and cancels the thought of a second date.
SIGN 9: Avoiding future date discussions
If you enjoyed your date, there should be a parting discussion of “when can I see you again?” If your date is really interested in seeing you again, he or she will respond favorably to your question.
However, if the question pops up or subtle hints have been dropped and your date purposely tries to avoid the subject by giving an excuse or changing the topic of discussion, it is a sign there will be no second date, which means that is your first and last date with the person.
SIGN 10: You were ghosted after the first date
This is a major red flag that comes without the benefit of the doubt, a clear sign there will be no second date.
It is very hurtful, confusing, and rude to just ghost your date after the first meeting without explanation or any wrongdoing on the other person’s part.
It is not only immature and irresponsible; it is also a huge turn-off.
Imagine that after giving him or her hopes for a second date, you go ahead and ghost the individual. How do you expect him or her to feel? You’re keeping the other person in suspense and hoping for something more when you’re clearly unavailable.
Ghosting your date will not land you a second date with him or her.
SIGN 11: If you don’t feel it
Gut feelings should not be underrated or ignored. It is one of the most honest things to trust, so it is essential that you listen to your intuition and follow its lead.
No matter how enjoyable the date was, if you don’t feel it, don’t push it.
Give it time. Having chemistry on a first date is cool, but it isn’t a must. You should not force yourself or your date to partake in what is not felt. If you don’t get positive energy from him or her even after trying to liven up the situation, don’t stress about it.
Also, if your partner does not get positive energy or feelings from you, he or she can tell you so. If that is admitted, know for certain that there will be no second date for you both.
SIGN 12: If you are incompatible
Compatibility is one thing most people look for in a relationship. When you and your date have contrasting lifestyles, it may be difficult for you both to find a connection. If you decide to go on a second date and maybe pursue a relationship, there would have to be a lot of sacrifices on one end, which may be too draining for the other person to keep up with and make it difficult to integrate one another’s lives into one whole.
Therefore, it is important to find a person whose lifestyle, goals, and beliefs fit your own so that you will feel comfortable and connected enough to build a healthy, thriving relationship.
You might say you cannot find this out on the first date, but from your observations that day and other conversations following, you would know which direction you both are headed.
If there is no compatibility, it is a sign there will be no second date.
Going on a second date is a sign that things are looking promising and that a relationship could develop between you two.
To determine if a person is right for you, you would have to meet again, and this article has shown you several signs he or she might not agree to a second date with you.
It has also shown you where to make amends if you have been unconsciously sabotaging your chances of a second date. Use it to your advantage.
