Love is a beautiful feeling. When two people find love, they cherish each other and the time they spend together. Ever wondered why ‘Happily ever after’ is usually written at the end of a love story? It is because the people involved never imagined that their love would lose its color and come to an end someday. They fix their minds on vacations and date nights, spas and Christmas, mountain hikes, and picnics—anything but heartbreak.
Yet, one of the greatest fears a woman can ever have in a love relationship is the uncertainty of how long the relationship will last. Every woman craves commitment and security, and so they always want to be sure that wherever they are investing time, energy, and love, it is not sinking sand. And with the rising statistics of heartbreak and divorce each year, their concerns are valid.
If you are that woman who wants to know for sure that her man is a keeper, here are 10 signs he will never leave you.
10 Signs He Will Never Leave You
1. Your relationship is not isolated
Any relationship in isolation is prone to falling apart. A man who is committed to you will be willing to show you off to his friends and family. He would encourage you to also build a healthy relationship with them. Such a man will most likely bond with your family and friends as well. And so leaving you becomes harder because it will become a community affair should the thought ever cross his mind.
In addition to not hiding you from his friends and family, he openly affirms his love for you. He values you, and it is obvious in his words, actions, and choices. He appreciates you for who you are and shows gratitude for the things you do, even just for being in his life. He stands up for you and takes your side each time. If this is true about your man, he is a keeper.
2. He doesn’t flee in the face of trouble
Challenges have been built into the matrix of life, and they are bound to happen. The question is usually ‘when?’ Any man who will stick with you at your lowest, through thick and thin, will not leave. He is available and takes it upon himself to be your major support system during trials. He seeks every possible means to bring solutions to the challenges you or your relationship are facing. Your problems become his. He is courageous and responsible.
It shows emotional maturity and resilience. It also shows the value he places on you and the relationship. He is someone you can count on to stay with you no matter what the tides of life may bring your way in the course of the relationship.
3. He values your opinion
From what movie you both should watch on movie night to when and how to buy a house for the family, a man who won’t leave you would want to hear your opinion.
He values what you have to say and carries you along in the decision-making that affects your individual lives and relationship. He doesn’t insist that things go his way, except where necessary. He is a good listener who seeks to understand your perspective and appreciates your contribution.
A happy relationship thrives on good and open communication where each partner is free to air their views, values, ideas, feelings, and opinions.
It builds trust and fosters fondness and security. No one is in the relationship for selfish reasons. This is a clear sign that your man won’t leave you.
4. He is willing to resolve conflicts
When two individuals with different backgrounds, education, personalities, and upbringings come together, the tendency for conflict is quite high. This is because their perspectives and opinions will sometimes differ. And the way these conflicts are handled will go a long way toward determining the relationship’s longevity.
Sometimes, a man’s response to conflicts is to raise up an emotional wall to keep out whatever wants to hurt his feelings. He is an expert at bottling up his emotions or expressing them in unthinkable ways.
If your man is willing to resolve conflicts in a peaceful and loving way, if he is vulnerable and shares his true emotions with you, if he is willing to ask for forgiveness or to forgive you, and if he doesn’t take out his annoyance on you in any abusive way, it is a sure sign that he values your relationship and is not going to leave.
5. He doesn’t play the blame game
A quote by Robert Muller says, ‘To forgive is the highest form of love.’ A man who acknowledges that you are both humans susceptible to making mistakes and makes room for your flaws is one who will not leave you. He is patient to see you evolve.
Rather than dumping the blame on you when something goes wrong, he owns up to the role he played in the matter and takes responsibility for his mistakes.
He also listens to your perspective when you make a mistake and is empathetic. He doesn’t jump to hasty conclusions.
6. He is trustworthy
Trust is fundamental to a healthy relationship. It is the key to feeling secure and confident. It also broods openness and vulnerability, which are vital to sustaining your love for each other.
Any relationship where trust is in doubt is built on a shaky foundation and will eventually collapse if not appropriately attended to.
If you can beat your chest about your man’s integrity, if you can take his words to the bank, if he is transparent with his life, that’s a positive sign.
7. He fills your love tank
Marriage (and relationships generally) is hard work. It requires spending quality time together, performing acts of service to make life easier for the other person, exchanging gifts, and speaking words of affirmation over your partner. From hugs to holding hands to kisses and sex within the confines of marriage, these are physical contacts that keep the spark in the relationship.
It’s easy for a man to gloss over details sometimes and just be absorbed in his own world. But when a man takes the time and makes the effort to love you and to love you in a way that resonates with you, it means he is committed.
When he is intentional about making sure you are loved, it’s a sure sign that he is not leaving you.
8. He is interested in becoming a part of your world
One thing that is indicative of a man’s commitment to his relationship with you is that he includes you in his plans for the future, his hobbies, his job, and even his finances. Not only does he carry you along with the happenings in his life, he wants you to do the same for him.
He can stay awake to help you with your schoolwork, meet a deadline, or prepare for a presentation. He is always willing to give you advice or help you find solutions to problems you may encounter.
He wants to know you on a deeper level and wants to be involved in your dreams, career, routines, and goals. He isn’t going to leave you; he is truly in love with you and is in the relationship for life.
9. He makes you feel good about yourself
When you are around him, you don’t feel less of yourself, like you don’t measure up, are too fat, or unsuccessful. Instead, your self-esteem is at its highest when he is around.
He is your greatest cheerleader. He cheers you on to becoming a better version of yourself, always reminding you of your abilities. He celebrates your wins – small and big. He is willing to make deliberate sacrifices to see you succeed at being and doing you.
He is never stingy with compliments. He is constantly affirming your beauty and strengths. He tells you how great your cooking is.
He encourages you as you make your choices, even if it means hitting the gym with you if that’s what you want.
He never uses a past mistake as a weapon against you. Instead, his words constantly reinforce your esteem and confidence.
10. He can’t stand to see you unhappy
With love comes care—a genuine and healthy desire to see things go well for others. A sure sign that your man is loyal to you is that he is constantly seeking ways to make you happy.
While he may not be the source of your happiness all the time, he tries not to be the reason why you are sad. He knows the right words to say and the right things to do to brighten up your day. And should he hurt your feelings in any way, he is willing to apologize and retrace his steps.
Your joy is his joy, and your pain is his as well. He could catch the proverbial grenade for you. He makes conscious efforts to understand your needs, concerns, and desires and to go beyond being a lover to being your friend. It goes a long way toward showing how emotionally invested he is in the relationship and is a sure sign your man will not leave you.
If you find these 10 signs that he will never leave you in your relationship, then you can breathe a sigh of relief because your relationship was built to last.
On the flip side, the fact that you don’t find these signs doesn’t necessarily mean he will leave you anytime soon. It could also be indicative of a growing relationship that needs time to get better. Please give room for growth.
In addition, men are also seeking signs that the women in their lives won’t leave them as well. So rather than just looking out for these signs, do your due diligence to ensure that he can also find these signs in you. It takes two to make a relationship work.
